To All the Mom's Still Momming After the Affair

I can picture you now.

The mom who is pregnant and chasing after other littles. The mom who is an empty-nester, watching her kids take flight into the world. The first time mom who is newly holding her baby. The mom who is keeping up with every ounce of drama her teenagers are carrying in. The mom who just went through a painful loss and never got to hold her baby. The mom whose babies are learning to ride their bikes for the first time. The mom who just walked the excruciating journey of losing a child and trying to remain a source of strength for the rest of the family. The mom who is running through the day in and day out, taking care of every need of her kids and household.

And no matter what scenario or season you find yourself in, amidst everything you are carrying as a mom, you might also be carrying the heartache of infidelity. You may have discovered your partner or spouses' affair, or they may have disclosed it to you. You both may be working on it together, or maybe your partner/spouse decided to leave you. Maybe you decided it was best to leave the relationship. Amidst it all, your role as mom has never stopped. Here's what I want to say to you this mother's day.

You are beautiful.

You carry a special kind of grace alongside your pain.

You are strong.

You have grit.

You have a deep reservoir of love to give even through pain.

This devastating season will only anchor you deeper into what you beautifully value.

Your joy isn't completely stolen.

You keep showing up for your babies even when you are shattering inside.

Your babies are so blessed to have you as their mom.

You can get through this.

There is hope.

You are going to make it.

Your kids need you.

You are modeling for your kids how to hold space for both the pains of life and the ability to thrive-even if you don't feel like you are right now.

You are modeling for your kids how to sift through this messiness while still being able to be present.

You are showing your kids that everything will be okay, and recovery can happen, self-love can still exist even when you don't get it right.

You are a GOOD mama.

This mother's day I hope you can hold space to see all that you are doing and have been able to do amidst this really devastating season. You might feel alone, uncertain of the future and not enough in so many areas. I hope you can receive this encouragement today.

You are IRREPLACEABLE

From one mom to another. You got this, this Mother's day.

If you need individual counseling walking through this journey, I would be happy to walk alongside you through your healing. Feel free to contact me, or request an appointment, you don't have to walk this season out alone.