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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
You might not feel securely connected to your partner and wonder if you even matter or are important to them.
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Emotional disconnection not only impacts the emotional connection between you two, but you may also experience disconnection in sexual intimacy as well. You may end up feeling alone, frustrated, and shutting down because you feel like there is nothing you can do that is good enough. You may become critical and demanding just to get a response that leaves you feeling finally heard and understood. Unfortunately, you may feel that many times the moves made to repair the gap end up making the gap between the two of you bigger.
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Over time disconnecting moments can accumulate and compound hurts, sometimes leaving you in such a place where you end up avoiding the hard topics, and you might begin to question, how did we get here?
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You may even doubt that it’s possible to ever hear each other again, be cared for by each other again, and feel emotionally safe with each other again. These moments may leave you especially confused when maybe the gap between you and your partner starts with seemingly trivial topics.
The negative cycle between the two of you may feel like the final fate of your relationship.
Why Choose Plumeria
Beyond Communication
EFCT focuses on creating a secure attachment, which leads to healthier, more sustainable communication.
Emotional Safety
EFCT helps foster emotional safety, where both partners can trust in each other's accessibility and responsiveness.
Therapeutic Process
EFCT is an intensive process, helping couples understand their disconnecting patterns and gain lasting change and confidence in their relationship.
Clarity in Decisions
EFCT can help couples discern whether to stay in, or leave the relationship, by providing a greater understanding for their needs.
I am here to help you both through my specialized training in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT). EFCT is an evidenced based practice and helps couples get back into secure intimate connection by understanding what truly underlines the reactions you see in each other in moments of disconnect.
This understanding opens opportunities to heal wounds and restore intimacy. EFCT is not just about improved communication, but it’s about creating a secure attachment, which produces healthier communication. Through the experience of emotionally focused couples therapy, new ways of communicating become sustainable because you will understand the underlying causes for the negative patterns in your relationship, and you will get to know what blocks you both from being able to hear each other and share clearly with one another.
Through EFCT it is possible to rebuild a secure connection with your partner and learn how to ask clearly for and meet the unique needs both you and your partner have.
Having a healthy relationship requires that there is emotional safety, meaning that when two people reach for each other, there is trust in knowing that you are accessible and available to each other.
EFCT helps to rebuild security and fosters compassion, grace, acceptance and forgiveness in significant relationships.
EFCT is an intensive therapeutic process with sessions ideally occurring on a weekly routine until lower frequency of sessions is therapeutically supportive for couples in maintaining their progress and establishing lasting change that couples can feel confident about carrying out independently.
EFCT is appropriate for significant relationships at any stage whether it is a dating relationship, premarital relationship, marital relationship, a relationship recovering from infidelity, or a divorced couple looking for closure or healthy co-parenting communication.
If you find yourself trying to decide whether you are wanting to stay in the relationship or leave the relationship, the process of EFCT can also help bring clarity to decisions like these.
If you are interested in restoring the love and bond in your relationship or gaining clarity for how you want to proceed in your current relationship, feel free to reach out to us by calling us at 860-791-4688, clicking 'Book Consultation,' or clicking 'Schedule Your First Session Today' at the top of this page. I am here to help you both start your new beginning together.